HANDLING BREAK UP

It is hard to accept the agony of breaking up. It can’t get any easier but there are a few measures you can take to help make the process of moving on move along.
Time (but not too much time) :
First of all, acknowledge that what you are going through is hard. Give yourself permission to grieve. However, if you allow yourself to dwell on the difficulty of the break-up, you just replace one addiction with another. Make a serious effort to involve yourself in projects and activities, and immerse yourself in other people. Talk to your friends about the break-up, but talk to them about other things, too. Even if you don't want to, forcing yourself to get out and concentrate on other things will get you on the right track to feeling like yourself again.
Letting go :
You will never get over him/her if you let yourself daydream about getting back together. Delete him from your cell phone. It's a good idea to get rid of everything that reminds you of him/her to help yourself realize that that phase in your life is over. Depending on the length and closeness of the relationship, some people find that moving helps them make a clean break and a new start. If that isn't an option, rearrange the furniture, redecorate your walls - anything you can do to symbolize moving on will help you make the transition. It's time to start a new era, with new memories and new possibilities.
Getting it out :
It's important that you express what you think and feel; working through those questions is a big part of leaving them behind you. Put them on paper. After you've spent all of your anger, confusion or guilt, look at what you've written. Edit any accusations or sections that are too emotionally charged - you don't want to send anything you'll regret later - and make sure it reads as an honest letter that isn't asking for a response. Once you've sent your thoughts, frustrations and explanations, you can feel certain that you've said what you needed to say and move on.
Friendship can wait :
No calls. No sightings. No friendship. You need at least three months with absolutely no contact before you can even think about starting a friendship, and it often takes much longer. There's no such thing as "staying friends." You were not friends when you were dating, and if you were friends before, it ended the moment you became intimately involved. If you want to start a friendship now, realize that it will be an entirely new relationship that must be built from the ground up. You'll share a different kind of bond, have different kinds of conversations and play different roles in each other's lives. It may be true that once we love someone, we love them forever, but it cannot be in the same way if you hope to have an honest friendship and an honest chance at moving on.

(SOURCE : lovingyou.com)